Because it was spontaneous and unplanned. It was freezing and terrifying and I screamed the whole way down and I don’t know if I’d ever do it again – but it was a highlight of my summer. Then I turned to him and said: “This would definitely be choosing the bigger life.” So I jumped. My husband, a true adventurer, didn’t even hesitate when he came out of the water, I was still dithering about what to do. Last year our family visited a new-to-us beach, which happens to have a well-known jump zone. Choosing the bigger life can often mean biting off more than I think I can chew…or taking a leap of faith. It can be a helpful rubric through which to evaluate decisions I might want to consider “ choosing the bigger life” when someone suggests a last-minute weekend getaway (it would be easier to just stay home), when my husband wants to wake the kids up to see a once-a-summer meteor shower (they’ll be so cranky in the morning), or if I’m considering a major career transition (too scary, too hard, too exhausting). I’m a huge fan of Gretchen Rubin’s work, and she’s discussed a personal mantra to: Choose the bigger life. No stress or tears, and by 6 months she was ready for another one. Work, life, travel – they just continued on, fitting in and around her new responsibilities as primary caretaker to a helpless infant.
For many, entering motherhood feels like drinking from a fire hose for one of my sisters, it was a tiny blip on her radar. If I’d waited until I was ready, I’d still be waiting. Back to the motherhood example: no matter how long I waited, I was never going to feel prepared for the adjustment. Mileage will vary – interestingly, a big bite to one could be a tiny nibble to another.
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But over time I learned how to change a diaper in the dark and how to navigate the emergency department at 2 am with a feverish child I muddled my way through preparing business plans and grant applications.
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Both put me in uncharted territory where I felt like I had a mouth full of birthday cake, at a party I wasn’t invited to. I’ve co-founded two businesses and birthed two children – both require huge investments of time and other resources. Going back to school as a mature student.Selling a house and downsizing to an apartment.Building a house and serving as general contractor on the project.Adopting a child (or a second, or a third).
What do you value at the end of the day – even if the getting there part seems daunting?īiting off more than you can chew might look like: Are you a kale smoothie aficionado, or do you prefer Mars bars washed down with some Peach Snapple? In other words, it helps to know where you want to get to. Second, know what sort of food you want in your body. In other words, don’t accept the Head of Neurology position with no medical training in your back pocket (as ludicrous as this sounds, I am shocked how frequently I read about stories not so unlike this seemingly far-fetched example people dangerously underqualified for positions they assume, usually under false pretenses). But some helpful caveats:įirst, make sure you have teeth.
Ultimately, the older we get, I suspect we all realize that life is unpredictable and sometimes you just have to open up real wide, take a giant bite, and have faith the chewing part will come later. Some changes are impossible to prepare for there are too many variables, too much uncertainty. But he took things one step at a time and, eventually, it felt more like drinking from a very high-pressure garden hose. He certainly felt as though he had bitten off more than he could chew.
The learning curve was steep, stress levels high. My husband, in the midst of a stressful work situation, once likened the experience to drinking from a fire hose. But, sometimes, you just have to take a big ol’ bite…īite off more than you can chew. Consider potential impacts and ramifications. It can be easy to put things off – or avoid decisions and situations entirely – if you feel unable to “fully” prepare. If you’re anything like me, you prefer to enter situations with a 10-step plan already in place.
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